Breastfeeding is a beautiful act of love and nourishment between a mother and her baby.
So, why does this natural way of feeding your baby cause such stress and fear when it comes to breastfeeding outside of your home?
Whether it’s concerns about privacy, judgment from others, or simply feeling unsure about how to do it comfortably, many mothers face challenges when it comes to breastfeeding in public.
In this post, I’ll explore the ins and outs of public breastfeeding, offering tips, insights, and strategies to help you feel comfortable and confident breastfeeding wherever you’d like.
Deciding to Breastfeed in Public
Making the decision to breastfeed in public can be both liberating and nerve-wracking.
Many moms may feel unsure or self-conscious at first, but it’s important to remember that breastfeeding is a normal and natural part of life.
I vividly remember the first time I breastfed Liam outdoors.
I was in the park with my two best friends, both seasoned moms who breastfed freely without any worry.
Meanwhile, I struggled with discomfort under a nursing cover, constantly adjusting Liam until he latched properly.
I felt self-conscious, convinced that all eyes were on me. I assumed I had a problem, especially since I had larger breasts compared to my friends.
Years later, during maternity leave with Emily, I met a friend who was a new mom. As we both breastfed our babies, I found myself doing it naturally, without a care in the world.
Watching my friend struggle with the cover, I realized how much my perspective had shifted over time.
So, what was different in both of these cases? Me.
I had become much more confident with breastfeeding.
My mindset had changed—I knew that my primary job was to feed my baby, and if someone wanted to look or criticize, so be it. It didn’t concern me anymore.
Embracing the freedom to breastfeed in public will allow you to nourish your baby whenever and wherever you need, without restriction or shame.
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Breastfeeding in Public Laws
After deciding that you want to breastfeed, no matter where, your next question might be “Is breastfeeding in public legal?”
The good news is that in many countries, including the United States, breastfeeding in public is protected by law.
These laws vary by state and country, but they generally affirm a mother’s right to breastfeed her child in any location, public or private, where she is legally allowed to be.
However, there are some countries where breastfeeding in public is either explicitly illegal or culturally discouraged.
For example, in some Middle Eastern countries, there may be cultural norms that frown upon breastfeeding in public.
Additionally, there might be specific locations within countries where breastfeeding in public is restricted, such as religious sites.
So, if you’re planning to travel abroad, make sure you’re aware of what is acceptable in that destination. So you could breastfeed confidently knowing that you are legally protected.
Choosing Discretion in Breastfeeding
So now you know you want and can breastfeed in public, but sometimes you will prefer not to.
It depends on many factors like the specific location, the comfort level, or presence of others.
For example, although I feel fine nursing anywhere, I’m only comfortable when I’m around women or strangers.
If I’m in public with male family members or friends, I won’t breastfeed openly to avoid making them uncomfortable. Instead, I’ll use a cover or find a private spot.
Tips for Breastfeeding in Public
Dressing for Comfort and Accessibility
Choosing the right clothing can make all the difference when it comes to breastfeeding in public.
Choose tops that provide easy access to your breasts, such as button-down shirts, nursing tanks, or tops with discreet nursing openings.
I typically layering my clothes, wearing a tank top underneath another shirt. When it’s time to breastfeed, I simply lift the top layer, allowing for easy access while minimizing exposure.
Choose Your Spot Wisely
Look for comfortable and quiet areas where you can breastfeed without feeling rushed or crowded.
Some mothers prefer designated nursing rooms, while others feel comfortable nursing everywhere.
Trust your instincts and find a space where you feel at ease.
Practice Makes Perfect
If you’re feeling nervous about nursing in public, practice at home first.
Experiment with different breastfeeding positions and clothing options until you find what works best for you and your baby.
The more comfortable you feel breastfeeding in private, the more confident you’ll be when nursing in public.
Position Yourself Comfortably
When nursing in public, it’s important to find a comfortable position for both you and your baby.
Experiment with different positions to find what works best for you and your little one, ensuring a comfortable and enjoyable breastfeeding experience wherever you are.
If you can sit in a chair or sofa with armrests, it’s most convenient to breastfeed using the cradle hold.
But if you’re sitting without armrests, what I use to do is to elevate my knees slightly by placing my feet on the stroller or another object and then rest my arm on my knee.
When I’m on a picnic and have a place to lie down, my favorite way to breastfeed is the side-lying position.
Handling With Criticism
While nursing in public is legal and should be acceptable, some mothers may still encounter harassment or criticism.
It’s important to remember that everyone is entitled to their own opinions, but that does not diminish your right to breastfeed in public.
If you find yourself in this situation, it’s important to know your rights and how to advocate for yourself.
- Stay Calm: In the face of harassment or criticism, it can be easy to become upset or defensive. But it’s important to remain calm and composed. Take a deep breath and remember that you have every right to breastfeed your baby in public.
- Know Your Rights: Familiarize yourself with the laws regarding breastfeeding in your area. If you are approached by someone who questions your right to breastfeed in public, politely inform them that it is protected by law.
- Seek Support: If you feel uncomfortable or threatened, don’t hesitate to seek support from others around you. This could be a friend, family member, or even a bystander who is sympathetic to your situation.
- Educate: If someone expresses ignorance or misunderstanding about breastfeeding, take the opportunity to educate them. Explain the benefits of breastfeeding for both mother and baby, and debunk any myths misconception they may have.
- Set Boundaries: If criticism becomes too much to bear, don’t be afraid to set boundaries. Politely but firmly explain that breastfeeding is a personal choice and that you expect respect for your decision.
- Report Discrimination: If you experience discrimination, consider reporting the incident to the appropriate authorities or organizations. By speaking out, you can help raise awareness and advocate for the rights of breastfeeding mothers everywhere.
Privacy Options for Public Breastfeeding
If you prefer a bit more privacy while breastfeeding in public places, there are several options available to you:
- Nursing Covers: Nursing covers are lightweight garments designed to provide privacy while breastfeeding. They typically feature adjustable straps and neckline styles for easy nursing access.
- Muslin Cloth: A muslin cloth can be draped over your shoulder or across your chest to provide added coverage while breastfeeding. Choose a lightweight fabric that allows for airflow and comfort.
- Layered Clothing: Layered clothing, such as a tank top under a loose-fitting shirt, can create a discreet nursing-friendly outfit. Simply lift or lower the top layer to breastfeed while keeping your midsection covered.
- Find Secluded Spots: Seek out secluded or quiet areas where you can nurse without feeling exposed. Many malls, parks, and public spaces offer designated nursing rooms or quiet corners for nursing mothers.
Normalize Breastfeeding
One of the most powerful ways to feel confident breastfeeding in public is to help normalize breastfeeding in your community.
By breastfeeding openly and unapologetically, you are helping to break down barriers and challenge societal norms surrounding breastfeeding.
Your courage and confidence can inspire other nursing moms to feel more comfortable breastfeeding in public as well.
So go ahead, mama, breastfeed your baby with pride and confidence. Wherever and whenever you’d like.
It’s natural to worry about what others may think while breastfeeding in public, but remember that you are providing the best possible nourishment for your baby.
Stay confident in your decision to breastfeed and ignore any judgment or criticism from others.
Remember that your baby’s needs come first, and you are doing what’s best for them.
